By Cynthia Martin

It’s easy to say, “My children are grown. I’m finished with raising kids.” But the truth is, we never stop having an impact on children. Every child we come into contact with — whether they are neighbors, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or simply the teen down the street — receives messages from us. Some of those messages are intentional, some are not.

Raising children isn’t just a parent’s job. It’s everyone’s responsibility, whether we want it or not.

Sometimes, the most meaningful support we can give another parent isn’t advice — it’s listening. A friendly ear can make a world of difference for someone struggling with the daily challenges of raising kids.

And when it comes to children themselves, small gestures matter. A smile or a wave to the teenager walking by, or a kind word to the child chasing a ball into your yard, sends an important message: “You belong here. You are valued.”

When children feel disliked, they withdraw. When they feel welcomed, they grow.

If we want young people to grow up with a healthy view of the world, it begins in our neighborhoods. It begins with friendliness, compliments, and recognition. It begins with adults looking for the positives in kids and letting them know they matter.

Even simple acts can send that message. Ask a teen for help with your computer — they’ll likely solve your problem in minutes. Offer to pay them to mow your lawn or clean your carpets. These requests aren’t just chores; they are signs that you trust them and see their value.

As a new year begins, it’s worth asking yourself a few questions:

Do you know the names of the children in your neighborhood?

Do you ever talk with them — or even smile when you pass by?

Do you compliment them when you see good behavior?

Do you take small steps to build relationships with them?

These simple actions don’t just help children. They shape the community we all live in.

Here are some small ways to show kids they are valued:

Smile, wave, or say hello when you see them.

Learn their names — it shows you care.

Offer encouragement: “Nice shot!” or “Thanks for helping!”

Ask for their help with a task you know they can do.

Listen. Sometimes all a child (or parent) needs is someone who hears them.

You are a significant part of raising our next generation. Make a difference today.