By Cynthia Martin

Holidays with children can be absolutely wonderful — or absolutely exhausting. The difference often depends on how you plan and pace the celebrations. A few simple steps can make the season smoother and more meaningful for everyone.

Keep the routine (and the nap!)

It’s tempting to skip naps or bedtimes when the excitement builds, but that’s a mistake every parent eventually regrets. An overtired child can quickly become cranky or overexcited — and then everyone pays the price. Try to preserve at least part of your normal schedule. A well-rested child handles the holidays much better.

Don’t forget regular meals

With sweets everywhere, it’s easy for children to fill up on sugar. But the best way to keep the holidays pleasant is to stick to regular, balanced meals. Too much sugar — or not enough food at all — leads to the same thing: a cranky, overstimulated child. Keep healthy snacks nearby and set limits before the festivities begin.

Pace the presents

If you’ve stocked up on gifts, don’t let them all be opened at once. Spreading out presents over a few days — or even just a few hours — lets children truly appreciate each one. Otherwise, the excitement fades into chaos, and the joy of giving (and receiving) gets lost.

Practice gratitude

Before the big day, talk about saying “thank you.” Young children may need a little help; perhaps they can draw a picture or dictate a message for you to write in a note. Older kids should write their own thank-you cards. Gratitude doesn’t just show manners; it teaches empathy and respect.

Include them in conversations

Holiday meals can be busy, especially with out-of-town guests. Don’t forget to include your child in the table talk. Ask questions, invite stories, and make sure they feel part of the gathering. These shared moments help children build confidence and connection.

Talk about what the holiday means

Every celebration has meaning, and your child learns it from you. Talk about why your family celebrates Christmas — or any holiday. Explain traditions, values, and history in simple terms. As other observances come along, like Martin Luther King Jr. Day next month, take time to explain their importance, too. You are your child’s most important teacher.

Once the presents are opened, talk about sharing. Encourage your child to pass along toys or clothes they’ve outgrown to others who could use them. Some families make this a yearly tradition before or after the holidays. It’s one of the best lessons you can teach: generosity feels good.

The holidays are about more than gifts — they’re about belonging. When you share your family traditions, your child learns who they are and where they belong. That sense of identity and connection is one of the greatest gifts you can give.

As we enjoy this special season, may you find time for laughter, gratitude, and love. We are fortunate to live in such a beautiful place, surrounded by wonderful people. From my family to yours, I wish you joy, peace, and a truly happy holiday season.